Comments for Archie's Room

Comment on Right Now by Kelsey

Kelsey — Mon, 30 Aug 2010 03:00:34 +0000

So often you manage to say things I didn’t even realize I wanted to say, but I read and think, “Yes, that’s it.”

Thanks for sharing. Hope your school year is off to a wonderful start.

Comment on Right Now by Anne-Marie

Anne-Marie — Wed, 25 Aug 2010 23:18:39 +0000

Today I ran across a photo of Archie playing ball on the playground at the Meyer Center, grinning, actually unaware of the camera for once (he usually asks me not to take his picture). He held that bat out and looked like he could hit the ball clear across the road.

The photo reminded me of your blog, which is awesome, and really should be compiled into a book. Anyway, I love to read what you write, and so here I am.

Even though she’s 23 and about to be married, I remember vividly the first kindergarten day for my only child. Mothers always do see their children as both babies and as they are now and I think it gets more bittersweet as time passes. I can completely relate to your apt description of being sucked into a black hole, all those bits of time and me smeared about. But you’re right, they’re each just another in a collection of moments. It’s both hard and good to raise a child, and equally hard and good to let them go. Enjoy your babies while you have them. I think I will try to imagine that all those bits of time and memories are confetti, and it’s a parade. If you look up, the shiny bits catch the sun.

Comment on Right Now by NaNa

NaNa — Thu, 12 Aug 2010 00:28:29 +0000

To me it was a chilled Cosmo and a delicious piece of chocolate! Archie will own that school in no time flat with his ability to remember everyone’s name and him just being his Archie self. He is my sunshine and I am both excited and apprehensive to see him take this next step. I know he’s ready but I sure wish I could keep him just like he is for a little longer but time does march on and they grow up in spite of us. Good luck my Archie. You will be great!

Comment on Right Now by kellyw

kellyw — Wed, 11 Aug 2010 21:51:49 +0000

This post was like a big glass of wine after a long day…your words always relax and transport me.

I have been thinking a lot about Archie going to school this week as I started back to school. AnnaKate will make the transition in 3 years and I know it will come to fast. I can’t wait to hear about all of his adventures. I know that “shy” boy of your will win them over!

Kelly

Comment on 3 by Archie’s Room » Right Now

Archie’s Room » Right Now — Wed, 11 Aug 2010 20:46:23 +0000

[…] John and my mom and dad until there was nothing left to say. I admit that there are moments when I can’t believe the twins are no longer preschoolers and I’m suddenly surprised all over again by the fact that Archie has graduated from the Meyer […]

Comment on Full Circle by NaNa

NaNa — Wed, 30 Jun 2010 11:20:25 +0000

Oh my goodness! Now I’m going to have to work twice as hard staying in shape to keep up with these kids. That’s OK though because it’s all good stuff. How fun for Jack and Kit! I can’t wait tto see what they think about it!
Love, NaNa
P.S. Too bad Archie is in school during that time. I think he would give Brandon a run for his money!

Comment on Taking Another Shot by Archie’s Room » Full Circle

Archie’s Room » Full Circle — Tue, 29 Jun 2010 18:19:42 +0000

[…] may have ended up winning my age group that morning, and I may have improved my time from the previous year by a full minute, but I didn’t see Brandon again until I crossed the finished line and he was […]

Comment on Mixtape by NaNa

NaNa — Fri, 11 Jun 2010 15:19:24 +0000

Crazy? No! You are and always were a girl who marches to her own beat. I hope that Archie, Kit, and Jack will be like that as well and never give in just to be in the “cool” (for lack of a better word) group. It takes strength, conviction and lots of integrity and kindness to be that way. Truly children learn what they live (the good, the bad, and the ugly) so they can’t go wrong being like you. It would be such a better world if people could learn that and live it!
Love, Mom (aka NaNa)

Comment on This In Between by Kelsey

Kelsey — Thu, 03 Jun 2010 01:36:13 +0000

I’ve missed the blogging world, but I’m also coming up for air as our school years wind down… love to read your writing Anne. Looking forward to more!

Comment on This In Between by NaNa

NaNa — Thu, 03 Jun 2010 00:36:17 +0000

Enjoy the free time. We all need time to regroup and refresh. I love Archie’s agenda and his telling of it. It’s just so hard when something gets out of order for some reason or another. That Archie though has made great strides in just about everything he does. He is an inspiration to me!
Love, NaNa

Comment on He’s Graduated by sarifarrell

sarifarrell — Sat, 29 May 2010 04:54:55 +0000

Congratulations to you Archie. What an exciting and special day!

I thought of you guys and wondered where my thoughts will be when we come to the same occasion, in the coming years..

We will miss seeing you Archie, you too Anne, that is for sure!

Comment on He’s Graduated by NaNa

NaNa — Sat, 29 May 2010 00:27:01 +0000

He has been showing us the way all along. We just need to follow along and give a nudge now and then and Archie will make us even more proud than we were at his graduation. He is a very special little boy and I am as proud of him as I can be.

Comment on 3 by NaNa

NaNa — Fri, 21 May 2010 13:15:11 +0000

As I watched those twins at their graduation last evening I couldn’t help but remember watching you get on the bus for kindergarten. Yep, I understand about the circles!
Next week when Archie graduates from the Meyer Center will seem a lot like coming full circle. I know we have many years of milestones ahead but Archie’s graduation will be for me a circle completed. This boy made it and made it BIG! It will be very hard to keep the emotions under control. I AM SO PROUD!
Love, NaNa

Comment on Antidote by kellyw

kellyw — Fri, 16 Apr 2010 01:20:37 +0000

I know that you will hate me saying this but you are an inspiration. I am coming up one my one year anniversary of running. I love what it does…I love how it clears me…empowers me. I feel stronger and more centered than I ever have. I look forward to more years of running and learning.

Kelly

Comment on Antidote by Melissa

Melissa — Fri, 16 Apr 2010 01:19:55 +0000

I miss my workouts. I went into a funk as soon as I stopped. At this point I have to wait until I am no longer growing this little lady. My body is falling apart and I am looking forward to getting it back together again. I loved the feeling of accomplishment I had every morning. It is necessary to do something for yourself, by yourself. Keep going Anne!

Comment on Antidote by NaNa

NaNa — Fri, 16 Apr 2010 00:55:15 +0000

I’m thinkin’ you’re gonna get pretty damn close.
Love, Mom (aka NaNa)

Comment on For Judy by Archie’s Room » Antidote

Archie’s Room » Antidote — Thu, 15 Apr 2010 23:53:00 +0000

[…] written before about why I began running in the first place, and I ‘ve written about how training enables me to forgive myself, but I don’t speak much about how training also empowers me, how it often alleviates the anger I […]

Comment on On My Shoulders by Archie’s Room » Antidote

Archie’s Room » Antidote — Thu, 15 Apr 2010 23:18:15 +0000

[…] written before about why I began running in the first place, and I ‘ve written about how training enables me to forgive myself, but I […]

Comment on In Between by NaNa

NaNa — Wed, 07 Apr 2010 20:39:44 +0000

Oh Archie, I am so sorry I gave you that nasty bug. You will feel better soon. You handle illnesses better than any of us.
Anne, I totally agree with you. I think it has to be happy to be the end. At least that’s what I try to live by. I guess it depends on the individual though.
I think we all feel trapped at times but it passes. Life really needs those twists and turns to make it interesting. Hang in there. Things will be clear again.
Love, NaNa

Comment on Constant by NaNa

NaNa — Tue, 30 Mar 2010 17:25:54 +0000

Wow Anne! That open heart surgery seems like a hundred years ago but I remember Barky that day like it was yesterday. Don’t ever change the way you are. I recall Aunt Pat saying that you always know where you stand with Anne. At times it may come across as a little harsh but there is no one more honest than you. You have grown and matured and learned more than most young women your age. I am so proud of you. There is no one I would trust more than you to have my back. Don’t change and keep sharing. It helps others as well as you. Love, Mom

Comment on Black Cat by Johnson

Johnson — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 21:44:53 +0000

Hi Ann and Portia,
Michael has painted lots of black cats. Some people think they are lucky! Michael is very busy painting for the Kentucky Derby Party fundraiser in Michigan in May. Today he is painting Secretariat with watercolors. He mixed magenta and cadmium yellow for the chestnut coat and he is using cobalt violet for thje shadows. His watercolors glow with color. BloodHorse Publications sent him a big box of old magazines to use as reference. He doesn’t copy the photos. He just looks at them to see the colors of the horses, how they look when they move and the colors of the jockey silks. Then he paints his own ideas. He is going to send Blood-Horse Publications an original horse painting as a thank you. Please visit Michael’s new website if you would like to see some of his new horse paintings. http://www.artistmichaeljohnson.com

We are looking forward to spring and to planting a vegetable garden in containers on our porches and flowers in the community garden in the backyard. Last year the squirrels and the rabbits ate up all of the vegetables in the garden. Michael and I were the only ones with a harvest!

Happy Spring!
Robin

Comment on Black Cat by sarifarrell

sarifarrell — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 22:50:38 +0000

Go Archie! I can not help but smile Hey, missed your writings and love coming back here again.

Comment on Black Cat by NaNa

NaNa — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 03:02:25 +0000

That was a very special moment and I’m so glad that I got to share in this one of many “rights of passage.” That black cat that crossed your path a few years ago was certainly not a foreboding of something bad because there is not an ounce of anything bad about having Archie in our lives (but you know that.) He has made every single person he encounters better for the experience. That boy makes my heart burst with pride!
Love, NaNa

Comment on For My Aunts by kellyw

kellyw — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 00:56:39 +0000

Glad for the clarification of the Facebook photo of the Valentine…made it that much sweeter.

Your days are full like mine but seem much more fun.

I have not run in 2 weeks…the winter doldrums have hit and I am just not motivated to try and trudge through the ice or sleet. There is always next week and the loom of that Reedy River 10k.

Thanks for the blog…yours is one I truly love to read!

Kelly

Comment on For My Aunts by NaNa

NaNa — Mon, 15 Feb 2010 21:31:14 +0000

There you go Pencil and Peg-a-mite complete with links to pictures.
Thanks Anne. I know how hectic life is at times but those two aunts of yours don’t do facebook.

Comment on Daddy’s Home by Kelsey

Kelsey — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 01:20:34 +0000

Ugh - I detest all the logo-laden crap Matt brings home for work and Harper treats like it is of the finest gold… but it is nice that they were so happy to see their dad.

I hate it when Matt is away without us, hate it.

Comment on Daddy’s Home by kellyw

kellyw — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 00:47:28 +0000

Too funny…

Kelly

Comment on Night Visitors by Melissa

Melissa — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 00:53:51 +0000

This is why I dread taking Will out of his crib. He wakes up and sings to himself now. I am queen of doing the things I said I would never do. I can already see him standing at my bedside everynight. Let me know how/if Archie ever ends up in his bed.

Comment on Night Visitors by NaNa

NaNa — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 00:52:02 +0000

I would sleep with Archie every night if it was possible. There’s nothing better than that sweet little voice and that little warm body. I don’t mind the elbow in the eye or the back hand across the face. I love the way Archie plays school. He amazes me and I am so proud of him and his great strides and leaps these last few weeks. What a boy!
Love, NaNa

Comment on Night Visitors by sarifarrell

sarifarrell — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 00:23:15 +0000

Sweetness..pure sweetness…

I mean, kiddos get back in your beds and let Mommy and Daddy get some rest!

So glad to read your posts, Anne.

Comment on For Judy by Wendy P

Wendy P — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 18:10:02 +0000

Lovely post, lovely woman.

Comment on For Judy by Lil Judy

Lil Judy — Tue, 05 Jan 2010 13:09:45 +0000

Thoroughly enjoyed your latest entry — thank you. You are one of the most special young women I’ve ever met and I truly miss seeing you every day. You are a wonderful person and the perfect Mom for Archie, Kit and Jack. I never knew the “old Anne”, but I love the new one just fine.

Comment on For Judy by NaNa

NaNa — Tue, 05 Jan 2010 01:03:19 +0000

I think you have a new found confidence. I’m not sure it’s forgiving yourself but whatever…it’s good to feel good. A new year, a new start, way to go!
Love, NaNa

Comment on For Judy by maya

maya — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 21:39:44 +0000

Anne, I always enjoy reading you. You make me laugh, cry and think, always. So glad you’re back. I look forward to more.

Comment on For Judy by erin

erin — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 20:04:22 +0000

What a fabulous post. I relate to it profoundly, and I’m not even sure why.

I think sometimes I write on my blog to say things to myself by saying them out loud to others. To think things through in a way that forces me to believe myself.

Perhaps this isn’t what you’re saying. But maybe at some point, you need to stop saying these things out loud. You need to say them to YOURSELF, only. And discover that you believe them regardless of what you project to the outside world.

I don’t even know if this makes sense. But I I’m really happy for you, and for reading this post. Thank you.

Comment on For Judy by Lisa

Lisa — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 04:19:19 +0000

Beautiful, Anne, just beautiful.

Comment on For Judy by sarifarrell

sarifarrell — Sun, 03 Jan 2010 23:55:13 +0000

I hear you Anne!..and I feel you. I have been on the same “journey”, no way around it.. But boy does it feel AWESOME to be “back”, better than before, more steady somehow. Missed you!

Comment on For Judy by kellyw

kellyw — Sun, 03 Jan 2010 22:20:24 +0000

What a great way to start a new year!

Kelly

Comment on For Judy by amypwallace

amypwallace — Sun, 03 Jan 2010 20:13:58 +0000

I wish I could get there…I do not have a child with a disability for a reason…still trying to find my “why” but I hope I do soon…too many more comments like “Mommy are you happy today?” will run my family away!

Comment on For Judy by Michelle Z

Michelle Z — Sun, 03 Jan 2010 19:20:53 +0000

Anne.

What can I say to that?

You’re lovely and I’m so glad I know you.

Comment on For Judy by rebecca

rebecca — Sun, 03 Jan 2010 18:52:54 +0000

Good for you Anne! I’m so happy for you. If you figure out any secrets you have learned along the way please share them with me. I’m still having some difficult days, some worse than others. I hope one day to be able to forgive myself for whatever it is that needs to be forgiven.

Comment on For Judy by spencersmum

spencersmum — Sun, 03 Jan 2010 18:29:28 +0000

WOW…I’m so happy for you!!! Wish I could get there…someday perhaps….still dealing with things and some days are worse than others…like today!!!! Go ANNE!!

Comment on Fresh Start by Archie’s Room » For Judy

Archie’s Room » For Judy — Sun, 03 Jan 2010 18:13:19 +0000

[…] did this last year, I know, and knowing as much makes me smile at my memories of what was because, my god, so much has […]

Comment on Homework by rebecca

rebecca — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 18:32:24 +0000

Top Banana, yes you are! Wonderful post Anne.

Comment on Homework by maya

maya — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 21:27:17 +0000

Just beautiful, Anne.
Thank you!
I am so glad I “know” you and Archie (and the rest of your delightful family).

Comment on Homework by Lil Judy

Lil Judy — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 20:48:54 +0000

Even though I was somewhat familiar with the challenges Archie has faced, I am totally awed by his successes. He is a precious little boy and is blessed to have you and John for parents and Kit and Jack for siblings.

Comment on Homework by NaNa

NaNa — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 16:16:35 +0000

You are a “Top Banana” as well. Archie, Kit and Jack are so fortunate that you are their mom.

Comment on Homework by kellyw

kellyw — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 22:35:05 +0000

I love what you wrote for Princess Kit and Archie…they are both top Bananas in my book!!!

Kelly

Comment on Duality by erin

erin — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 18:39:17 +0000

So beautiful. The words, but especially the sentiment. Happy Birthday, Archie!

Comment on Duality by Kelsey

Kelsey — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 00:24:35 +0000

I hope Archie had a very happy birthday day. Sounds pretty good to me!

Comment on Duality by Heather Needham

Heather Needham — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 23:29:27 +0000

A year ago today Zoey was diagnosed.I looked back at the comment left that day and you wrote”You will get through.I promise.You will.”Thank you for that Anne.And for Archie.He represents hope.And for Zoey,3 years younger then Archie,I look to her future with great joy and possibility of what 3 years from now,will hold.I hope yesterday was filled with joy and laughter and it was a beautiful day for your most beautiful boy.

Comment on Duality by maya

maya — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 16:16:23 +0000

Just beautiful Anne, thank you for this.

I especially love and can relate to “Archie both falls short of my expectations and exceeds them” and “We are tied together by biology, but here and now it’s the spirituality of it all that feels as if it counts the most.”

I am so glad Archie had a good birthday. I love his requests! And that cake…yum!

Happy Birthday Archie!

Comment on Duality by kellyw

kellyw — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 01:48:45 +0000

I am so glad that Archie had a wonderful day…just as he wanted it! I love that he wanted cherries on his cake…that precious boy!

John’s comment about not worrying so much really hits home…as our kids grow and our love for them grows…their disabilities seem to diminish. I love days when I feel like I can truly handle whatever comes our way.

Archie was in our prayers tonight ….Happy Birthday Archie!

Kelly and AnnaCake

Comment on Duality by Jen

Jen — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 01:09:26 +0000

Beautiful, Anne. I’m so glad Archie had a great birthday!

Comment on Duality by NaNa

NaNa — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 00:30:31 +0000

Happy Birthday my sweet Archie! You are my sunshine, my happiness, my good cheer, and everything that is good. I can’t imagine what my life would be like without you. You have taught me so many things about myself and about what is important. I love you bigger than the universe. Happy number six!

Comment on Down the Line by lisa p

lisa p — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 20:37:08 +0000

I love this. Glad you’ve been writing more often, I so enjoy hearing about your adventures with Archie and the twins :).

Comment on Endurance by Kelsey

Kelsey — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 00:23:28 +0000

The next time I am ready to pull my hair out over my children’s behavior I’m going to try to remember this - endure - it’s a good lesson.

Comment on Roll Reversal by Kelsey

Kelsey — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 23:30:48 +0000

Such a profound thought for your little girl.

Comment on Unscathed by Lil Judy

Lil Judy — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 16:14:19 +0000

As I have been blessed to call you a friend and now have a better understanding of the challenges you and your family have come through, I don’t think there is anyone I could respect and admire more. I look forward to seeing you every day and enjoy your sense of humor and dedication as we endure our workouts. You are a wonderful Mom and should never doubt yourself.

Comment on Down the Line by Lil Judy

Lil Judy — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 16:03:22 +0000

Archie is a precious little boy and we can all learn a lot from him.

Comment on Down the Line by maya

maya — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 17:24:19 +0000

I love that line-the “prescription for our perspective.”

I would love to meet Archie someday!

Comment on Down the Line by NaNa

NaNa — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 00:47:37 +0000

That oldest boy of yours is phenomenal. We were all frightened, worried and unsure six years ago but now…well that Archie is the light of my life. I am so proud of him and happy that he is my first grandchild.

Comment on Unscathed by NaNa

NaNa — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 21:13:26 +0000

So so good. So so true once again. Every single word. I remember thinking almost six years ago if we would get through all that (the diagnosis, the heart surgery, the leukemia) and if we did at what price. Your post title tells it all! We are richer for the experience in oh so many ways especially like Kit said, “and we have an Archie.” Without him none of us would be complete!
Keep that 31 for 21 challenge coming. Your words are so worthwhile.

Comment on Unscathed by Wendy P

Wendy P — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 21:12:01 +0000

Loved this! Well said and done!

Comment on Unscathed by Camille

Camille — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 21:00:16 +0000

I really wish I could clean your floors, fold your clothes, empty the dishwasher, lift…what did you say 15 pounds?, (don’t every count on me lifting 155), because I really, really enjoy reading your words.

Comment on Endurance by Lisa

Lisa — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 04:50:41 +0000

So beautiful, so sweet, Anne.

Comment on Endurance by NaNa

NaNa — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 00:44:47 +0000

Well said and oh so very true…every single word! I love that Archie-barchie boo with all my heart.
NaNa

Comment on Week End by Ctevia

Ctevia — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 04:42:40 +0000

You are amazing!…and so my hero.

Comment on Week End by Jen

Jen — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 00:58:41 +0000

You totally leave me in the dust. On all of that.

If you’re headed to Dr. Johnson, we’ll see you there…Evan has a checkup at 8:15!

Comment on Week End by NaNa

NaNa — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 00:42:20 +0000

You go girl! You look great and are so dedicated. Congrats!

Comment on Week End by Camille

Camille — Sun, 04 Oct 2009 23:27:48 +0000

Great times Anne. I mean it, those are some phenomenal times! I hope the rest of your week goes well, too.

Comment on Race Report with a Side of Life by Archie’s Room » Week End

Archie’s Room » Week End — Sun, 04 Oct 2009 22:07:29 +0000

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Comment on Synchronicity by Archie’s Room » Week End

Archie’s Room » Week End — Sun, 04 Oct 2009 22:07:05 +0000

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Comment on Roll Reversal by Jen

Jen — Sat, 03 Oct 2009 01:24:54 +0000

Anne, this made me cry. That’s an amazing little girl you have.

Comment on Crisis Averted by Melissa

Melissa — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 23:57:23 +0000

Motherhood has improved my problem solving skills tenfold. Of course my mommy brain has caused me to get into similar situations all too often.

Comment on Crisis Averted by NaNa

NaNa — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 22:48:57 +0000

Jack was a sweetheart for sharing. I’m proud of him as well as his sister!

Comment on Crisis Averted by kellyw

kellyw — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 21:19:30 +0000

Thanks for sharing…I thought I was the only one who did things like that! So glad that Jack was agreeable…could have been a bad scene!!

Kelly

Comment on Roll Reversal by NaNa

NaNa — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 15:13:13 +0000

That Kit makes me so proud to be her NaNa. She is such a compassionate and understanding “little/big” sister. I know she will always be one of Archie’s strongest supporters and allies as he will be hers. He loves her back just as much as she loves him.

Comment on Roll Reversal by erin

erin — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 13:37:08 +0000

That’s a pretty profound glimpse into who Kit is. Sensitive, strong, thoughtful. Those are the first words that come to mind.

I’m excited to hear more from you this month! I’ve missed you!

Comment on Roll Reversal by Michelle Z

Michelle Z — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 03:06:29 +0000

Oh, Kit. What a beautiful girl.

And glad you’re resurfacing here

Comment on Roll Reversal by Wendy P

Wendy P — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 00:01:32 +0000

Welcome back. Beautiful as always. That Kit is her mother’s child - lucky girl.

Comment on Roll Reversal by kellyw

kellyw — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 21:36:14 +0000

Precious story…glad your back blogging.

Kelly

Comment on Roll Reversal by maya

maya — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 21:00:12 +0000

So sweet. I love it.

I’m so glad you’re back!

Comment on Switching Tenses by maya

maya — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 18:15:14 +0000

Oh Anne. You kill me in a wonderful way. I need to remember to bring my tissues to your blog.
You write so beautifully about the every day things.
And I am with you on where did my babies go? It is truly magical, shocking, heart breaking and wonderful to watch them become these little people.

Comment on Switching Tenses by Kelsey

Kelsey — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 02:45:43 +0000

Just beautiful Anne, and sort of a nice reflection as we are in this moving up and forward time of back-to-school.

Comment on Switching Tenses by NaNa

NaNa — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 01:02:35 +0000

What fun we had and what great memories we made. Don’t forget how Archie thought the cemetary was a garden.
The thing is though they’ll always be your babies no matter how old they get! Just keep putting one foot in front of the other and enjoy every step. It just gets better!

Comment on Switching Tenses by Ctevia

Ctevia — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 23:14:04 +0000

You write so, so beautifully. I love that the kids now have their grandparents in their hearts.

Comment on Snakes by Archie’s Room » Switching Tenses

Archie’s Room » Switching Tenses — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 20:58:49 +0000

[…] and I are afraid the mice will attract snakes like the one I discovered on our front porch last year, like the one that surprised me this spring as I was unfurling the garden hose and turning the […]

Comment on Someday by Ctevia

Ctevia — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 18:50:10 +0000

I’ve been fighting with Wordpress tooth and nail over the last week so that I could get in here to say…this post totally made me cry.

Comment on Someday by maya

maya — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 14:21:45 +0000

Anne, that was beautiful! You always make me cry. But you know that I love to cry so that’s a compliment. : )
Such beautiful little snapshots.

Comment on Someday by Lisa

Lisa — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 05:21:38 +0000

So beautiful, Anne. Your eloquence brings tears to my eyes.

Comment on Someday by NaNa

NaNa — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 23:53:21 +0000

Great post!I have no doubt those three will remember all those things and be prepared to deal with unexpected situations. They are awesome kids!

Comment on Someday by Melissa

Melissa — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 22:02:08 +0000

I love all of the moments you share. Your blog is a wonderful snapshot of their childhood and what it is like to be a part of your family.

I do have to comment on Archie. A few years ago I bought a pink sequined dress and took it into the 4 year old class at the MC. I thought the girls would love the addition to the dress up area. To my surprise, the only kids that wear that dress are the boys. The dress has made it into a few different classes over the years. Every once in awhile I will walk into a class and I get a kick out of the little boy wearing the pink sparkly dress.

Comment on Someday by Michelle Z

Michelle Z — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 17:57:27 +0000

Anne, your writing is so beautiful, and your sentiments so heartfelt. Your kids are so lucky to have you - and to have you documenting their childhood in such a lovely way!

Comment on So, Anyway… by Kelsey

Kelsey — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 23:19:29 +0000

I’m happy to see you back and good for Kit!

The day of Harper’s second birthday we took her paci’s away (The ped. had been after us to do it since she turned one, and I refused!) and that afternoon she flung her self from her crib, so great was her distress. I’m glad Kit’s transition has been both self-motivated and less bumpy!

Comment on So, Anyway… by NaNa

NaNa — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 23:12:40 +0000

Oh Anne, you have been moving forward all this time…you just haven’t noticed because you’re living it. Those three little ones are as precious as can be! Enjoy every minute. I know I am.
Love, NaNa

Comment on So, Anyway… by erin

erin — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 21:09:15 +0000

Hey! I’ve missed you.

Many times I feel like we get in static stretches, where things aren’t changing (for good & bad), where the boys seem to stay the same age for a while. Then all of a sudden they’ll do a whole lot of growing up all at once. Like they’re doing sprints, then resting, then sprinting again.

Comment on So, Anyway… by Wendy P

Wendy P — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 20:35:00 +0000

That’s some good living y’all are doing!

Comment on Ten by lisa p

lisa p — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 00:27:44 +0000

So sorry for your loss. Your grandma sounds like a gem.

On a side note, I’m going to asked to be burried in a push-up bra…I love that.

Comment on Ten by Sfarrell

Sfarrell — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 17:35:42 +0000

I am so sick of crap like that! Gggrrrrr!

Nana and Anne, thinking of you guys and so sorry for your loss.

Comment on Ten by NaNa

NaNa — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 02:12:45 +0000

I think I would have chewed that woman up and spit her out as well. Downs baby indeed!
You are so right…your Grandma was strong, smart and beautiful. I hope if I make it anywhere near ninety that I can be as brave and classy as she was. I know its trite but she is in a better place and she surely has left behind some wonderful grandchildren and some outstanding great-grandchildren. I think she’s dancing with the angels for sure!

Comment on Ten by Jen

Jen — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 22:06:55 +0000

You still should have eaten that woman for dessert. Nice, Southern gentility and class, she has, doesn’t she?

I’m sorry about your grandma. Even when it’s expected, it still just stinks.

Comment on Note Writing by Archie’s Room » Ten

Archie’s Room » Ten — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 20:56:57 +0000

[…] answered my mother’s cell phone on Sunday morning when I called to check on Archie, Kit and Jack. My grandmother had died Saturday night, he […]

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Archie’s Room » Ten — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 19:54:09 +0000

[…] and from my spot on that roof I could finally see how damn steep the bridge’s incline really is. “I ran that mile in about eight minutes,” I reminded John, pointing to the steady climb on the Mt. Pleasant side of the […]

Comment on Seven Days by lisa p

lisa p — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 13:04:57 +0000

You don’t need to be running to get a supportive fist pump. I second NaNa (and the neighbor lady)–YOU GO GIRL! You are doing so many things right…

Comment on Seven Days by Sfarrell

Sfarrell — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 04:07:14 +0000

Anne, I get lost in your thoughts and sentences and I turn away with a smile.
Beautiful.
Thank you.

How is Grandmother?

..and when are you up for some bowling and 80’s music??

Comment on Seven Days by NaNa

NaNa — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 12:22:51 +0000

You are doing something right! You have a lot to be proud of with your little family. Like that woman said, “You go girl!”

Comment on Heirloom Days by NaNa

NaNa — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 00:50:10 +0000

Enjoy every single second of every single minute of every single day! They do go by so quickly and before you know it you are looking back wondering how it all happened so quickly. But the best part is that you get to relive it through your grandchildren and it just gets better and better.

Comment on Heirloom Days by kellyw

kellyw — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 21:53:21 +0000

Today was the first day that I embraced summer and it’s relaxing ways. I am allowing AnnaKate to go from the water table straight into the sandbox and then back out again. Whatever makes her happy on these lazy days of summer is what we will do! I spend the other 9 or so months out of the year torn between housework and real-work that it really isn’t fair but the summers make up for it all!
Hope to see you soon
Kelly

Comment on Siblings by lisa p

lisa p — Sun, 07 Jun 2009 02:42:19 +0000

They are all beautiful, Anne!

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End The R Word Day « The T21 Traveling Afghan Project — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 16:56:10 +0000

[…] what other’s have said on this topic! A Walk In Lily’s Garden Andrews Crew Archie’s Room Audrey and Stella’s Playground Banana Migraine Believing In Miracles Big Blueberry Eyes Class […]

Comment on Note Writing by NaNa

NaNa — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 00:57:09 +0000

I’m back. Thanks Anne…just what I needed to hear. ” Great NaNa never ceases to amaze me! She’s improving just a little but has made peace with everything that is happening and so have I. I hope I can be as brave and sensible when my time comes like she has been. I am very proud of her.

Comment on Note Writing by Wendy P

Wendy P — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 12:17:47 +0000

Anne - I hope your grandmother continues to recover well. Your kids are so cute!

Comment on Note Writing by Sfarrell

Sfarrell — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 11:38:11 +0000

Dear Anne and Archie’s Nana, I am so sorry to hear of Great Nana’s hospitalization.. My thoughts and prayers are with you for healing and strength. I hope for a quick recovery.

Kit, what beautiful cards!

Comment on Note Writing by UPSTATE

UPSTATE — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 01:49:19 +0000

I read all of your posts. I check the feed to your site everyday just to see what is going on over at your place. I don’t always comment, but just know that your life and the lives of your children and the rest of your family is very important to me.

I hope your grandmother continues to improve and she is able to share more of herself with you.

MSF

Comment on That’s My Boy! by Michelle Z

Michelle Z — Fri, 29 May 2009 20:40:40 +0000

what a beautiful ad - and a loving post! I’m so thrilled others will get to know Archie!

Comment on That’s My Boy! by Wendy P

Wendy P — Wed, 20 May 2009 20:49:14 +0000

Beautiful picture, beautiful post, BEAUTIFUL BOY!

Comment on That’s My Boy! by Rachel

Rachel — Wed, 20 May 2009 20:27:06 +0000

I showed Soph the ad and she said, “There’s my Archie.” I felt the same way, proud to see his smiling face and wanting to tell everyone around that the precious kid in that picture is our friend Archie. Like Will Ferrell in the movie Elf referring to Santa, “I know him, I know him.” What a kid he is and what a mom you are.

Comment on That’s My Boy! by kellyw

kellyw — Wed, 20 May 2009 12:38:25 +0000

I admire you so much Anne…for so many reasons.

Archie, Kit and Jack are so lucky to have such a passionate mom.

Kelly

Comment on That’s My Boy! by Camille

Camille — Wed, 20 May 2009 11:56:53 +0000

” After all, we are all trying to do our best by our babies. In the end, through our own, individual efforts we’re only helping each other move forward one day at a time. ”
~Beautiful, and well said. What a celebration of Archie.

Comment on That’s My Boy! by NaNa

NaNa — Wed, 20 May 2009 11:31:05 +0000

AMEN!

Comment on Time by Archie’s Room » That’s My Boy!

Archie’s Room » That’s My Boy! — Wed, 20 May 2009 09:14:25 +0000

[…] remember that John and I attended the Charity Classic’s President’s party last year and that I shared with you how talking with Archie’s oncologist that night granted me an insight I hadn’t yet perceived. […]

Comment on What We Pass On by Archie’s Room » That’s My Boy!

Archie’s Room » That’s My Boy! — Wed, 20 May 2009 09:11:49 +0000

[…] stores. I didn’t know Archie’s photo and story would be used for this advertising circular when I took him to that photo shoot in February, but I’m happy to tell you how surprised I was when John called me over to look at his laptop a […]

Comment on Siblings by NaNa

NaNa — Wed, 20 May 2009 01:36:16 +0000

Look at those sweeties and look how Kit is holding Archie! Too cute!

Comment on Mother’s Day Tea by NaNa

NaNa — Wed, 20 May 2009 01:34:29 +0000

Oh, so sweet!

Comment on Morning by Kelsey

Kelsey — Mon, 18 May 2009 00:41:17 +0000

I love the pictures you paint of your family.

Comment on Proof by Kelsey

Kelsey — Mon, 18 May 2009 00:01:39 +0000

That would feel like a huge step to me - hooray for all of you!

Comment on Race Report with a Side of Life by Kelsey

Kelsey — Sun, 17 May 2009 22:31:22 +0000

His other mommy! I love it - don’t we feel that way sometimes?

Comment on Proof by kellyw

kellyw — Sun, 17 May 2009 18:26:14 +0000

I love progress! We fight for progress around here and when it happens it is amazing.
Kelly

Comment on Pick Three by Archie’s Room » Race Report with a Side of Life

Archie’s Room » Race Report with a Side of Life — Sat, 16 May 2009 00:59:40 +0000

[…] first thing you should know is that I haven’t run in the evening since I finished the Greenville 5K Candlelight Run last June. I train in the mornings, usually beginning my runs around 6 o’clock, and I prefer to […]

Comment on Finished by Archie’s Room » Race Report with a Side of Life

Archie’s Room » Race Report with a Side of Life — Sat, 16 May 2009 00:53:48 +0000

[…] newly-paved trail, but I ran a few miles on the trail’s stretch through downtown Greenville when I competed in the Spinx Run Fest’s half-marathon last […]

Comment on Proof by Archie’s Room » Race Report with a Side of Life

Archie’s Room » Race Report with a Side of Life — Sat, 16 May 2009 00:52:41 +0000

[…] in reading about my running exploits then you probably should skip this post and scroll down to the next one, something I wrote earlier today about Archie’s advances catching up with his appearance. But if […]

Comment on Proof by Sfarrell

Sfarrell — Fri, 15 May 2009 23:28:23 +0000

Oh yuck! We hate gunky ears over here too
I hope those 3×3 drops do the trick and Archie feels better soon. I had a moment today as I was watching Sam and thinking that it will not be long before he starts talking to me and these baby days will be long gone…

Comment on Proof by NaNa

NaNa — Fri, 15 May 2009 20:14:38 +0000

Oh Anne, I know that look where it seems as if he’s looking into your soul. It’s indescribable!
That boy “is” closing the gap and it’s awesome to watch. I miss the “baby Archie” a lot but the “little boy Archie” is making up for it. I love watching him grow!

Comment on Proof by erin

erin — Fri, 15 May 2009 20:07:43 +0000

You are so good at letting him be who he is, letting him be where he’s at. I really admire that about you.

Comment on Morning by NaNa

NaNa — Tue, 12 May 2009 18:47:08 +0000

Archie is smart. Hands down that’s why he can read that book and knows the title of every children’s book in your house and mine. I love listening to the three of them interact. It’s priceless.
My only question is…what will you do when Jack picks up Corney on Thursday? (one more added to the mix) For those of you not in the know…it’s Jack’s imaginary baby adoption! LOL

Comment on Mirror by Wendy

Wendy — Sun, 10 May 2009 14:01:56 +0000

Great post - and so true…people speak without thinking and understanding entirely too often. And your Mom is right too - I know we are lucky to have Archie in our life - and the rest of the Moore family!

Dinnner was wonderfullast night - we shared so many good laughs! Have a good week.

Comment on Blooming by rebecca

rebecca — Fri, 08 May 2009 03:36:39 +0000

Oh Anne, I think you may have been misleading us just a bit with your claim to be unable to grow anything. Such beautiful wonderful things couldn’t grow without someone who knew how to grow them.

Comment on Mirror by rebecca

rebecca — Fri, 08 May 2009 03:34:37 +0000

I have a blog post in my head that was just prompted by this one. At some point in the next day I will write it up over on E’s blog.

I can honestly tell you that I have had this experience more than a few times. Unlike you, recently I turned right to a person in the store, went right up in their face up close and personal and said…

Is there a problem? Possibly a reason for your rude remark and the staring? I think the lady could have died, right there, from a full blown heart attack. Sadly I did not come across as an educator, someone who kindly shared a bit of insight into the reasoning behind my child’s behavior. Oh no, not I, instead I went right into the defensive mode, heavy on the “b” word.

I’m guessing she had even more to say about her grocery store experience when she left than as she stood stunned, unable to surmise even the teeny tiniest of replies. I felt bad later for being such an uncaring rude person.

Comment on Stretching by Lil Judy

Lil Judy — Thu, 07 May 2009 20:34:55 +0000

You are obviously a wonderful Mom and Wife, the wearer of many hats and possessor of multiple identities, but to the 9:30 girls you are our friend, workout partner and truly beautiful person.

Lil Judy

Comment on Mirror by erin

erin — Thu, 07 May 2009 13:15:16 +0000

Oh that mother’s response is awful. I’m sorry. It takes me a while to get over anger like that.

I like what your Mom said above.

Comment on Mirror by NaNa

NaNa — Thu, 07 May 2009 11:59:23 +0000

I know Archie’s “say it” drill and I love it. He’s just trying to learn and memorize. I love that he wanted to be on the stage and share his knowlege. About that woman….I’ve been saying all along that more people need an Archie in their lives. Then they could belong to this special club that we are members of and the world would be such a better place. But then again I wouldn’t want someone like that to have an Archie in her life. She doesn’t deserve it!

Comment on Stretching by Wendy P

Wendy P — Thu, 07 May 2009 01:48:04 +0000

Beautiful. Thank you.

Comment on Stretching by kellyw

kellyw — Tue, 05 May 2009 22:31:23 +0000

Ohh….I had an Archie’s room-palooza this afternoon with 5 posts! Wow….

I love how you are such a thinker. Your writing brings up ideas and thoughts that force me to confront things in my own mind or put them the rest. Thanks for sharing your personal thoughts.

Kelly W.

Comment on Stretching by erin

erin — Tue, 05 May 2009 19:24:05 +0000

We are, in the end, mostly a collection of memories and people we love and loved (and some that we most certainly did NOT). We are so defined by other people, but that’s part of being human, right? The enriching and the vulnerable and the sometimes damning part of being human.

I love your running posts. You inspire me. I’d love to be your “online” running buddy. (Although for the next year or so my running will be bumped down in priority a bit.)

Comment on Blooming by Sfarrell

Sfarrell — Tue, 05 May 2009 12:33:17 +0000

not having ANY kind of a green, blue, red thumb, how exactly did you get those beautiful roses to do THAT? Your house and yard look wonderful and ready for spring!

Comment on Dress Up by NaNa

NaNa — Tue, 05 May 2009 12:29:35 +0000

This so reminds me of you and Patrick at that age. Remember how you used to dress him up?

Comment on Blooming by NaNa

NaNa — Tue, 05 May 2009 12:28:27 +0000

Not only does it look great but those roses smell delicious!

Comment on Perfect by NaNa

NaNa — Tue, 05 May 2009 12:27:19 +0000

Awesome Archie! You rock!

Comment on Home Grown by NaNa

NaNa — Tue, 05 May 2009 12:26:18 +0000

I can’t wait for all those good home grown vegetables. Nice work Jack and Kit!

Comment on Stretching by Melissa

Melissa — Tue, 05 May 2009 02:46:07 +0000

Anne,

You have done an amazing job with running. Your hard work and commitment have encouraged me to get going. Your children are going to be very proud of you as they grow. Especially when they are at the same stage of their lives as you are now. I had a hard time figuring out what my goals were after I had Will. I needed something other than the daily grind of motherhood. I am happily following in your footsteps, even if my footsteps are not as fast as yours.

It sounds like you left your group in the dust this morning. I did too, but the guy I work out with is in his 60s and can not run. I am not complaining, because he makes me look good.
Melissa

Comment on Stretching by Kelsey

Kelsey — Tue, 05 May 2009 01:07:18 +0000

You’re famous!

I think what you write here is a good representation of all the things you are, all the roles you play.

I wonder what our children will think of these blogs someday - and whether they’ll even be interested at all.

Comment on Dress Up by Kelsey

Kelsey — Tue, 05 May 2009 01:03:24 +0000

I love dress up pictures - especially when they involve skewed cowboy hats!

Comment on Perfect by Kelsey

Kelsey — Tue, 05 May 2009 01:02:38 +0000

Look how happy he is!

Comment on Blooming by Kelsey

Kelsey — Tue, 05 May 2009 01:01:28 +0000

Is that your yard and house???? How beautiful!

Comment on This is Our Saturday by Archie’s Room » Stretching

Archie’s Room » Stretching — Tue, 05 May 2009 00:45:27 +0000

[…] that he’d asked Coach Dan that same question, and that Coach Dan had told him that he knew how I finished in my most recent race. “Really?” I asked my husband incredulously because, to be honest, I […]

Comment on Home Grown by Tricia

Tricia — Tue, 05 May 2009 00:44:36 +0000

LOVE all these pics! Look at those beautiful kids! Look at those beautiful roses!

Comment on Our Ode to Aunt Rosie by Wendy P

Wendy P — Fri, 01 May 2009 23:45:43 +0000

LOVED this!

Comment on Our Ode to Aunt Rosie by chescokate

chescokate — Tue, 28 Apr 2009 23:42:48 +0000

Too funny! But I have to say I agree with Jack on the snack choice…

I had a boss once who was addicted to the S-word, but then he adopted his kids and had to learn to use tamer alternatives. I can still hear him dropping stuff and saying “ssssssssugar!”

Comment on Our Ode to Aunt Rosie by NaNa

NaNa — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 14:28:42 +0000

We do need to clean up the potty mouths though because Aunt Rosie is no longer around to take the blame!

Comment on Our Ode to Aunt Rosie by NaNa

NaNa — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 14:27:20 +0000

How funny! When you told me about Jack swearing the other day I was relating the story to Patrick and Camille and it made me think of Rosie and the bus incident. Somehow I thought it was you but you’re right it was your brother. Then I read your blog and there’s the story. What great memories we have and what unique individuals we’ve had in our families. I hope my grandchildren remember me so fondly and can call up lots of good memories when they are your age. Then I’ll know I did something right!

Comment on Our Ode to Aunt Rosie by Sfarrell

Sfarrell — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 02:35:01 +0000

LOL! NICE! I mean, umm, where’s the soap dish when you need it! ;o)

my personal favorite is still mother f***er!

Comment on Our Ode to Aunt Rosie by rebecca

rebecca — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 01:51:32 +0000

I had the best [fucking] laugh all day today reading this post. You rock Anne!!! Really you do.

Way to go Jack recognizing he had just been served a plate of shit. Just kidding, but since bad words are the way to go today, I just had to add some.

Comment on Our Ode to Aunt Rosie by lisa p

lisa p — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 00:46:08 +0000

This is a great post!

I am always entertained at Archie’s Room…

Comment on Ladies Game Night by Archie’s Room » Ode to Aunt Rosie

Archie’s Room » Ode to Aunt Rosie — Sun, 26 Apr 2009 22:09:51 +0000

[…] Aunt Rosie wasn’t really my aunt. She was my grandmother’s sister, my father’s aunt, but we cousins called Rosie what our parents did as if she were our aunt, too. Our extended family was large in the way Catholic families were just a generation ago, so it helped to ignore the specifics and instead group people into categories. Not matter who she was in relation to me, Aunt Rosie could pepper a sentence with cuss words like no one’s business. And since she talked a lot, she had occasion to swear often. […]

Comment on Taking Another Shot by Archie’s Room » This is Our Saturday

Archie’s Room » This is Our Saturday — Sat, 25 Apr 2009 23:14:06 +0000

[…] was hoping for a PR, but I missed one by two-tenths of a second, finishing in 23:47. I will say, though, that my watch […]

Comment on Attitude Adjustment by Archie’s Room » This is Our Saturday

Archie’s Room » This is Our Saturday — Sat, 25 Apr 2009 22:53:12 +0000

[…] few feet away from our own patio. To be honest, I kind of felt like a good mom, a fun mom, not just one who’s going through the motions. Of course I’m still irritated and frustrated and aggravated at times throughout the day, but at […]

Comment on Attitude Adjustment by satlo11

satlo11 — Fri, 24 Apr 2009 02:28:39 +0000

Thanks for posting this! Right now my house looks like sh*t! I am embarassed if anyone came over right now! Like I would meet them on the porch and not let them come in! I am just tired from a day, week, … with the kids. By the time they go to bed I should be cleaning but I have no will power! I am tired as h*ll! It is good to know that Super Anne has off days too! Love the honesty!

Comment on Attitude Adjustment by lisa p

lisa p — Thu, 23 Apr 2009 22:28:17 +0000

I can so relate. I hope the tide has already begun to swing back to relative calm. With three little ones, you are bound to have these thoughts and feelings…we all do. I don’t know a mom who hasn’t had the “I’M NOT CUT OUT FOR THIS!” thought, or some version of the brainstorming talk (pat yourself on the back for not flopping on the floor, sobbing and snotting and shouting).

When things get so bad that I am actually considering taking a match to the pile of laundry, locking myself in a closet with a keg, or packing my bags and running away…I call the person most likely to make me laugh.

Laughter truly is the best medicine :)…

Comment on Attitude Adjustment by Sfarrell

Sfarrell — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 18:51:41 +0000

Time for wine w the ladies or at the minimum a margarita or three.

At Yaya’s but will get in touch w you tomorrow even it is just you and I.

Umm, and no kiddos allowed!

Hang in there dear friend.

Comment on Attitude Adjustment by amypwallace

amypwallace — Tue, 21 Apr 2009 19:15:41 +0000

Oh Anne. Perfect post ! Sums up my night and afternoon. I will spare you the details but i was short of going to the dr. for nerve pills today! I have had all kinds of advice from drinking to taking them to the park to get through no napping 2 and 3 year old boy’s but the best is this one from a friend our age who is battling breast and kidney cancer…I am NOT a country music fan but find the song from Darius Rucker “It Won’t Be Like This For Long.” I has helped me over the past 2 hours !

Comment on Attitude Adjustment by erin

erin — Tue, 21 Apr 2009 13:06:21 +0000

I relate to the depth of this frustration (and for me, sometimes, even resentment, which I feel HORRIBLE about) SO MUCH. I feel it a lot– sometimes seemingly all the time.

For me, it’s the DUTY of it all. My life feels like 100% duty. All the time. Everyday. Every minute, every second. And it is still not enough.

But it comes and goes with severity. At least it does with me. I go for weeks where I feel like, I am NOT CUT OUT FOR THIS. I feel like a terrible mother, wife, friend, daughter. I feel resentful for how hard I work and how few and far between the good moments are.

And then it will let up. I don’t know if it’s ME, or conditions change or what. But it does. Temporarily. But I feel better. I feel like I’m DOING THIS. I feel like I’m getting through the rough spots and really enjoying the high points. But I also know it won’t last.

And you know, roller coaster make me sick. I get terrible motion sickness. Seems unrelated, but it’s not.

Comment on Attitude Adjustment by Camille

Camille — Tue, 21 Apr 2009 01:39:12 +0000

great post. I absolutely, positutely love the Archie wants you to come up with a big idea.
I also love that you are so honest. In my mind your house is always spotless, clothes are always folded, and packed away in their places. I think of you every night when I debate leaving the last load of childrens clothes in the dryer. I always thought you were immune. Almost alien like - always being able to fold one last load or mop up a sticky spot as you headed to bed. This post to me, makes what you do, seem more unbelievable. You don’t want to do to do these things, you don’t enjoy it, you are not alien, you just have all your shit together 99% of the time. Enjoy a couple of weeks off.

Comment on Attitude Adjustment by Jen

Jen — Tue, 21 Apr 2009 01:23:14 +0000

Oh, man. If I knew how to fix that, I wouldn’t have had such a very similar day. Try wine. Or ice cream. Temporary fixes, for sure, but helpful nonetheless.

I had a tirade of my own last week, because I’m so damn tired of picking up everyone’s crap. Literally, and figuratively. I actually have a post of my own in draft mode right now. I’ll probably never have time to finish it, though, what with all the picking-up I have to do.

I say, to hell with the laundry! Hope you can, too, and be okay with that.

Comment on Attitude Adjustment by UPSTATE

UPSTATE — Tue, 21 Apr 2009 00:00:32 +0000

Oh Anne! Just today, just hours ago as I was trying to explain something to Rourk I stopped in mid-sentence and told him “You’ve got to do something about your son. I know he means well going on and on, but he’s about to get on my last nerve.” I couldn’t concentrate for listening to him and I was about to explode, too. I can so relate.

Comment on Attitude Adjustment by kellyw

kellyw — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 23:46:54 +0000

Glad you posted about this. We all have days, weeks and months like this but we don’t usually talk about it. We should-the idea of knowing that others feel the same way you do just makes things better.

I often have talks like your brainstorming session with my students at school and get some very truthful answers about myself…even though they hurt a little…they do help. I love how you employed the kids to help you. Together as a family you will get through this valley and hopefully not have to call am ambulance!

Kelly

Comment on Attitude Adjustment by NaNa

NaNa — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 22:28:38 +0000

I promise I’m not making light of your post. It just made me smile as I read it. Your little family is very precious.

Comment on Attitude Adjustment by NaNa

NaNa — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 21:11:28 +0000

There’s nothing to fix. It’s the everyday trials and tribulations of childrearing. Remember that little barrel of red monkeys we had when you were young. You had to hook their arms to get them out of the barrel and you won the game. Well it sounds like the barrel spilled in your house. My advice…link all your arms and pull yourselves up. I love the brainstorming, I love the ideas they had, and most of all I love how fun it all sounds. I know you don’t think so but it sounds funny and entertaining and so very normal. Take a deep breath and breathe! It gets better!

Comment on Family by Archie’s Room » Attitude Adjustment

Archie’s Room » Attitude Adjustment — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 20:21:58 +0000

[…] then there’s Archie who wants yogi milk, in a cup with a straw. The first time he approached me with this specific request of his I […]

Comment on Consequences by Tricia

Tricia — Wed, 15 Apr 2009 01:13:23 +0000

We start on Saturday! I am SO excited!

Comment on Growing Up by Tricia

Tricia — Wed, 15 Apr 2009 01:09:39 +0000

First of all, this needs to be a t-shirt: “I’ve been a mother too long to feel embarrassed about excrement.”

Secondly, again, I love reading the way you circle through your life.

Comment on Consequences by Jen

Jen — Tue, 14 Apr 2009 19:40:13 +0000

Ooh, I’m so glad you posted this. David and I are going, too, but it hadn’t occurred to me to keep Eli out of school so that he could go. I’ll have to think about that…you’re so right about the kids needing to “get it” when they’re small.

Cal, however, will still be going to school. I can’t deal with Mr. Squirmyman AND pay attention to what’s going on.

We will see you there!

Comment on Consequences by Wendy P

Wendy P — Tue, 14 Apr 2009 19:17:10 +0000

Go Team Archie!!!

Comment on Consequences by NaNa

NaNa — Tue, 14 Apr 2009 18:34:40 +0000

Well said, Anne. What a day it’s going to be!!!

Comment on Anticipation by Archie’s Room » Consequences

Archie’s Room » Consequences — Tue, 14 Apr 2009 16:21:13 +0000

[…] I’ve mentioned before that every morning Archie insists I explain to him exactly what we’ll be doing during the day. When I told him this morning that his sister, brother and I would be going to the store while he was at school Archie asked me to extrapolate. “For… ?” he wanted to know. […]

Comment on Growing Up by NaNa

NaNa — Mon, 13 Apr 2009 23:09:21 +0000

Oh how I hate when people pull away or can’t make eye contact! If only they knew the Archie I know. I keep telling myself, “one person at a time.” We will never educate everyone but we can educate one at a time and each time we succeed that’s one more that won’t turn away in the future for any child that may be a bit different.
We have all grown so much since Archie came into our lives.

Comment on Pet Peeve by Archie’s Room » Growing Up

Archie’s Room » Growing Up — Mon, 13 Apr 2009 22:10:57 +0000

[…] “No, you can’t,” I insisted thinking then of the boy who likes to empty shelves and laugh wholeheartedly at the ensuing mess. […]

Comment on On My Shoulders by Archie’s Room » Growing Up

Archie’s Room » Growing Up — Mon, 13 Apr 2009 21:26:36 +0000

[…] words to describe what was happening inside my head. After I finished my nonsensical description that doctor explained to me that I was experiencing an anxiety attack, then he emptied a syringe of liquid into the fleshy part of my hip and instructed John to take me […]

Comment on Grit by Melissa

Melissa — Fri, 10 Apr 2009 02:25:26 +0000

YEAH Anne. That is an amazing time. Running is such a mental sport. I am glad you did not let your head get the best of you.
Melissa

Comment on Wisdom by erin

erin — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 01:12:41 +0000

To varied extents, I think that’s a notion every parent can attest to. It’s lovely and profound, comforting and frightening all at the same time.

Comment on Wisdom by NaNa

NaNa — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 00:09:47 +0000

And oh how he’s changed us!! But of course all for the better. Oh yes having Archie in my life has been one of the best things that ever happened to me. Having said that…it was not fun going through the heart surgery and the leukemia and chemo, oh no, but the bonding time was oh so precious. That boy of yours has given me way more than I’ll ever be able to give back. He is who he is and for that I am grateful!

Comment on Grit by Kelsey

Kelsey — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 03:09:46 +0000

You seem to share your stories effortlessly - which is to say you do it so well.

Congratulations on the fantastic race. In awe, as usual.

Comment on Grit by erin

erin — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 02:09:22 +0000

Yes. And we should allow ourselves to be inspired, without it feeling trite. It is human, it is part of imagining your life as different, it is essential to seeing yourself in others. That’s what I think.

Love this story.

Comment on Grit by Priscilla Palmer

Priscilla Palmer — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 01:24:02 +0000

Kaylee and I are so proud of you. I hope you do many more.

Comment on Grit by NaNa

NaNa — Mon, 06 Apr 2009 20:31:46 +0000

Funny how that perspective thing happens, huh? Kudos to you for a great race and extra special kudos to that girl who finished the race and gave you that feeling that sometimes doesn’t come around that often. Congratulations all around!

Comment on Grit by Tricia

Tricia — Mon, 06 Apr 2009 17:04:55 +0000

Awesome. Thank you for sharing.

Comment on In the Interest of Fairness by Archie’s Room » Grit

Archie’s Room » Grit — Mon, 06 Apr 2009 14:47:34 +0000

[…] the 10K race in 47:36 and averaging a pace of 7:40 per mile. That’s a minute faster than my previous 10K personal record, and a whole nine minutes faster than I ran the same race last […]

Comment on An Initiative by Sfarrell

Sfarrell — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 22:41:47 +0000

You’ve made me cry Anne.. would you believe me if I told you that today I got into a fight with my brother over this word..and as he put it “the insignificance” of it.. I have been speechless for most of the day searching for a way to reach out to him but I have not been able to.

So instead I sent him a note, told him that I loved him, and asked him to come here and read your post.

Thank you dear friend for such a beautiful post.

p.s Thank you Nana for your encouraging words last week.

Comment on An Initiative by erin

erin — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 16:58:21 +0000

This is a wonderful message. There are so many reasons, mostly personal to me, why I am sitting here furiously nodding my head right now. I would really like to write it down, to write my own post on this.

Comment on An Initiative by NaNa

NaNa — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 15:31:18 +0000

No words. Only a round of applause for your words.
P.S. My life would not be complete without our Archie. I thank God for him everyday!